Rebecca Zinzi: Strong (cont'd)
It’s not easy to pick one word to describe anything, much less yourself. I struggled with this. But the word that kept coming to my mind was “strong”. I know I am strong. When people say I’m brave, I think that is incorrect. Brave is when you face something even when you have a choice not to. The things I’ve faced were coming whether I wanted them to or not, and I faced them head on. I did not usually ask for help.
Also, I am really good at figuring things out and just dealing with what’s ahead of me. So, in preparation for this project I looked up the definitions of “Strong”. There were a few lines that stood out for me:
1st - In reference to a person’s constitution – not easily affected by disease or hardship…. Not easily disturbed or upset.
2nd - In reference to a person’s character – showing determination, self-control, and good judgment.
I’m not sure if not easily affected is correct, I do think it’s close. But showing determination, self-control and good judgment is spot on. I am really determined and my judgment is usually right.
The short version of my story is I am a two-time breast cancer survivor. Also, my husband has dealt with a chronic illness for as long as I can remember, which is a little over 10 years. I have been with him every step of the way. When I refer to myself as strong, it is more in reference to dealing with his illness, his doctors and the VA Hospital rather than my cancer, surgeries and all that comes with having breast cancer.
My second breast cancer dignosis occurred right in the middle of him being sick. Somehow we faced all of the challenges and still maintained a home, loved our son, his wife and our grandsons. We made memories and look forward to the future. I think that shows strength. I am STRONG